moonruona’s blog

  To ever think I was once in love with someone I thought I could bring love and happiness to at the expense of mine got me questioning how less I once loved my beautiful self. Sometimes you just fall in love with the wrong person because you don't value yourself, seeking validation from others. Stepping away from this mindset has allowed me to put myself out there casually and nonchalantly. You know, just have fun and step out of your comfort zone, normalising rebellious attitudes.  I felt so confined as a child that I just wanted to exercise my freedom. I often worry about what others think of me, and unconsciously judge myself, but then why should I? No one truly understands my horror nor do they have the slightest idea how bumpy my path has been. People only understand what they choose to understand, why care so much? breaking free from negative circles should take precedence over meeting societal expectations.   The experiences I have had so far have had a positive i...

It’s one thing to get motivated, it's another to remain motivated. Some mornings are just different, you just don't have the emotional strength to get out of bed. Society sometimes is the best source of strength and most times, they are the virus you want to run miles away from. Sometimes my room can be a total wreck, disorganised and revolting, and I will find myself sitting like the queen of the coast, with less concern. After my daily activities, I literally jump on my bed and sleep like a baby. On rare occasions this can last a maximum of 3 days. From my hygiene routine I want to believe it is safe to conclude that the state of your personal space gives a hint on your ongoing mental and emotional situation.( Lol) but when you have people doing that for you, it becomes easy to conceal. . Some days just often decide to go south, leaving you wondering where you went wrong. Ever feel overwhelmed about everything, it just feels like you can't. You literally feel less motivat...

Writing from the African and Nigerian recent society perspective, Feminism is nothing but a bais form of concealing ladies impropriety. It is disturbing to still have such a mindset about feminism, despite the rapid advancement in the societal school of thought. The interesting part of all this is, it has been women against women.  Over the years, it has always been men advocating against the movement, which I believe, have been a lack of knowledge on why feminism was established in the first place. From a recent statistic, most men have begun to understand and support the movement. Hallelujah!!! It sounds hilarious when I overhear people say feminist are bitter unmarried women who have no hopes of finding a man. First and foremost feminism has nothing to do with marital status. It has nothing to do with your relationship status either. Feminism is the same thing as Activism. It is a race for peace and harmony. Picture this, when a man and a woman understands and respects each othe...

It hurts, and the pain that comes with it is incomparable. Seeking validation might seem unhealthy, but there is absolutely nothing  wrong with it. It is hard to deal with emotions you thought you have control over. It is always difficult fathoming how you keep attracting the wrong people in your life or should i say you keep falling for the wrong people, because from a critical perspective they made it clear they are not into you, but choose to stay and see what happens. You choose to put yourself through emotional pain hoping they see your effort and probably change. Nothing is more mentally exhausting like trying to help people see your worth, it is like giving money to an ape, no matter how much it is, it will never see the value or need to have it, and if you insist it will trample upon it carelessly and eventually destroy it. Sometimes you think it is love, it's never love when it aches your heart, it's never love when it's not being reciprocated. Sometimes you think ...

It feels awkward sometimes to strongly have the urge to reach out to people who you think probably don't give a fly about you, it feels more awkward when you are an over-thinker. It is comforting having a random chat with someone you have stuff going on for. Sometimes it comes with zero expectations, it's majorly for the soothing feeling that comes with it.  Truth is nothing prepares you for adulthood. It gets overwhelming most times. Managing your emotions and how you process things in your head. Feeling all alone in a crowd should be a course to study. To be honest, That moment you feel like shutting the world out might seem depressing but it is just a mere response to mental stress. I want to believe we have all been there. Nothing prepares you for the aches rejection brings. Expectations are one thing that could get you messed up when not being met. To some people it feels like a sense of entitlement. If you ask me, feeling entitled is not a bad thing until it begins to com...

Adulthood sometimes leaves you clueless about life. It can be overwhelming, especially when you have got to choose between good or bad. Your definitions of good and bad definitely have a huge influence on certain decisions you make. It's  important to be deliberate and realistic about your perception of life. It is easy to conclude on a certain philosophy that suits your current view of life but it will be a waste if it has no positive impact on your life. Sometimes the societal school of thought about negativity is overrated. If you live by rules and order of things you might die unhappy. It is important to explore, but explore with boundaries. Risks are part of life but do it with caution. Life sucks especially when things don't go the way you want them to go, it might make you feel completely useless, society calls it peer pressure, I call it self pressure. It's a pure response to a certain kind of anxiety. It is fine to feel worthless, sometimes life will pu...

In this article I will share with you the perfect way to recognize the perfect spouse for you. There are different types of people in the world, and it is very important to put this into consideration before you start a serious relationship. Dating someone who shares a similar goal with you is the best emotional investment you can ever ask for. You need to understand that mechanism of relationship before committing to one, if you seek Success and a lifetime intimacy. There're some  people in life with simple goals, like owning a house, a stable income, and no social status. As long as they're feeding and clothing with no landlord palava, they are at the peak of life. While there are people who are just about popularity and recognition with zero intention to make an impact in society. Some people are more about power and position, their major aspirations in life is to be in control, like a Godfather. However there are few people in the world that aspire to make a dif...