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Rising From Rock Bottom

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  Hitting rock bottom several times can be very traumatic, especially when it is both financial and emotional. There have been moments in my life where nothing worked no matter how hard I tried. Everything seemed to move against me. I was left completely confused and hopeless. And when I say everything, I mean  everything . My relationships would suddenly go cold for no clear reason. Breakups would happen out of nowhere. My finances would freeze, like a door had been shut in my face. And there I was, left in the cold, carrying questions with no answers. My first encounter with this phase was brutal. I thought it was because I was naive because I lacked confidence, self-esteem, worth, and purpose. My boyfriend at the time ended our relationship in a way that completely broke me. I almost took my own life. My future felt foggy. Yes, I lacked clarity. But deep down, I knew I wasn’t incapable. I knew what I could become if I was in the right environment. Like a typical Nigerian, I...

The Maths Of Self Worth

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  Sometimes I wonder why everything in life is governed by time. It makes me cringe knowing that I have to dig, plant, water and most importantly wait to see the outcome. Why can’t we just imagine things and have them magically bring themselves to life? At some point, most people have had this thought. We want ease. We want shortcuts. I think life  is  easy but not in the literal sense. Your definition of EASY strongly determines your approach to life. Take it or leave it. Life is the most structured phenomenon there is. Everything comes in sequence. The moment you miss a single step in the process, you either get stuck or return to square one. That can be frustrating. But until you get it right, you keep repeating the same mistakes, and it becomes a loop. Many people are too carried away or too distracted to become conscious of this pattern, so they mistake repetition for fate instead of feedback. Elevating your status in life isn’t just about money. Yes, money is essent...

What We Cannot See Still Governs Us

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  There are moments and events we can’t explain phenomena beyond the capacity of the human mind. There are patterns that feel planned, yet we don’t understand by whom. This is especially true for people who cannot explain the reason behind the repeated cycles they experience cycles that existed long before they were born. In some families, attaining a certain height in life feels impossible, no matter how hard they try. It often feels as though an unseen force is deliberately holding them back. Intellectually, science claims not to believe in the unseen, yet there is no tangible explanation for how we can speak to someone miles away and communicate seamlessly without interruption. All we know is frequency. Believe it or not, the world is ruled by forces. This is why theories exist explaining how the earth remains round while our feet stay firmly planted on it, suspended in this infinite space called the universe. We call it gravity. An unseen force yet without it, I wonder what hum...

When Clarity Fades

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  The confusion that comes with uncertainty is beyond comprehension. Think back for a moment how different would your life have been if you had simply accepted the fate before you? Maybe in your job, your relationships, your career choices, or even your marriage. Breaking free from a cycle you don’t even remember entering is one of the hardest puzzles to solve. You just want to get it right for once. I’ve read many books, and one of my favorites is  Attitude Is Everything  by Keith Harrell. It made me question whether my attitude was one of the forces holding me back. I however convinced myself it was and started working on how I approach and speak to people, which honestly helped in certain areas of my life. But let’s be honest I wanted more. I wanted to break free from financial and emotional struggles. And from what I’ve learned about people of wealth and influence, many of them appear saucy, arrogant, or even mean at least from my sentimental point of view. Questionin...

Understanding Your Role In Your Own Life

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The greatest moment in life is not when we’re winning, it's those moments when we strive to achieve our goals. Hey is why The days we struggle to achieve are often the most underrated chapters of our lives, yet they deserve the highest appreciation. These moments don’t just change our circumstances they shift our mindset, refine our perspective, and shape the way we approach life. They are the quiet seasons that condition us to discover who we truly are. Because if you don’t know and understand yourself, you’ll keep running in circles, never arriving at a meaningful destination. Behind every milestone we reach lies a refinement process often called the waiting season. This period tests patience, molds character, and uncovers layers of our identity. However, how long that season lasts often depends on how deeply you are willing to understand yourself within it. Some people arrive at that self-discovery quickly, while others must walk through challenges, endure pain, and sometimes su...