Relationship Mechanism

In this article I will share with you the perfect way to recognize the perfect spouse for you.

There are different types of people in the world, and it is very important to put this into consideration before you start a serious relationship. Dating someone who shares a similar goal with you is the best emotional investment you can ever ask for.

You need to understand that mechanism of relationship before committing to one, if you seek Success and a lifetime intimacy.

There're some  people in life with simple goals, like owning a house, a stable income, and no social status. As long as they're feeding and clothing with no landlord palava, they are at the peak of life. While there are people who are just about popularity and recognition with zero intention to make an impact in society. Some people are more about power and position, their major aspirations in life is to be in control, like a Godfather. However there are few people in the world that aspire to make a difference in life, they want to be of service to humanity and make the world a better place. Some major aspirations are intellectual accomplishment. Lots more that if I keep mentioning, it might take you the whole day reading.

It is very important to know the category you fall in as an individual.you cannot be someone who aspires to be great and settle with someone who aspires to be better, like it or not you can never be great, they will always pull you back and you keep rotating till death comes.

It is easy to influence people but not their mind or personality. Influence is temporary alterations.

I see married couples with different religions and I laugh because, whatever they make it look like on the outside is never the same on the inside. When it comes to becoming successful as a team there has to be unity In Every aspect. No loopholes. You can't be going to church while your spouse goes to a mosque, and call yourselves one. That is absurd literally. 

When a successful relationship becomes a goal between two people, similarities  should be a prior preference, because when there is a common ground between two people understanding becomes effortless and chaos becomes rare. 

I Don't know if I am communicating.

There are men who derived pleasure in a woman physical appearance, like a big butt, big breast, basically a hour glass body shape, especially during sex, it gives them a feeling of sexual contentment and that is all they aspire in a relationship with a woman. If that is not meant they can go extra mile to have it. While on the other hand there are men, who derive pleasure in a woman intellect,and her humor, their beauty or body shape is not a must have to them. Their personality is enough pleasure for sexual fulfillment. The attraction wasn't based on her body but mind. Vice-versa 

While in rare cases some men want both but I find that delusional, because in life the ratio is never balanced.

Understanding your intimate  relationship preferences is very important,as it can save you  from a failed marriage and relationship. Ever wondered why a man has a beautiful woman and still does not value her? Because his expectations are quite the opposite. Vice versa.

For more clarification, I will use a real life story as an example.

Once upon a time, there was a young man who just returned from the United States after his secondary and university education. He met this beautiful woman, who at that time had a situation that could lead to death, he did  all he could to save which was a success, as time and days passed by, they started an intimate relationship which led into marriage and three healthy children. This man is a big intelligent dreamer with aspirations for great things for his family and the world. The woman is a simple minded person, whose aspirations are just to serve and follow. Upon knowing this, he did everything to change her perspectives of life, but she sees his dream as impossibility and too big for one person to achieve, so she will often discourage him  to focus on other things. They both decided to follow their passion and interest which ended in failure. At the end of the day the man died without archiving his dreams, and she was left with nothing to inherit.

It wasn't her fault she couldn't see from his perspective, it is just who she is, what she aspires for and even when he tried to make her see beyond her horizon all she saw was impossibility.

It wasn't his fault because he thought with time he could influence her mindsets, and he kept trying to. They were unable to achieve anything because they had different goals and interests in life.

The best thing he could have done was to walk away but he never did despite the reoccurrence of conflict and misunderstanding.

Sometimes it is not about love, money and beauty, it is about deep similarly, compatibility in a deeper sense. A couple with different goals and life interests is bound to fail no matter how they patch the relationship. Unit is the secret recipe for a successful marriage and serious relationship. You can never fall out of love with someone you share a similar goal and interest with. There has to be a leader and a follower, with equal rights for opinions. If there is no common ground, how do you advise your woman or man? How do you understand their needs and support? Is llike two people with different tastes in furniture, how do you understand why they don't like a certain kind of design?

Before you start that serious relationship, look inward to understand what you are looking for. Don't marry a career oriented person and demand a simple minded person out of them. Don't marry a cosmetic freak and demand intellectual accomplishment out of them. Pressuring him or her to focus on technical and brain challenging goals. For more understanding, don't marry a Goat and expect a sheep character traits, it can not work. People change when they are pressured to be someone they are not, they are forced psychologically under duress to fight back, consciously and unconsciously. But when there is a mutual understanding and interests, no misunderstanding is unresolvable.

Love is not everything, be practical and realistic. 

Thanks for reading 

Moon Ruona Amreta.