Heart Aches

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It hurts, and the pain that comes with it is incomparable. Seeking validation might seem unhealthy, but there is absolutely nothing  wrong with it. It is hard to deal with emotions you thought you have control over. It is always difficult fathoming how you keep attracting the wrong people in your life or should i say you keep falling for the wrong people, because from a critical perspective they made it clear they are not into you, but choose to stay and see what happens.

You choose to put yourself through emotional pain hoping they see your effort and probably change.

Nothing is more mentally exhausting like trying to help people see your worth, it is like giving money to an ape, no matter how much it is, it will never see the value or need to have it, and if you insist it will trample upon it carelessly and eventually destroy it.

Sometimes you think it is love, it's never love when it aches your heart, it's never love when it's not being reciprocated. Sometimes you think you are lacking in some areas, especially when you have less access to materialism or certain societal, human standards.


You might think you love yourself enough, but sometimes it's just not enough to strengthen your heart through emotional hurdles. Self-esteem is something everyone thinks is innate, but the bitter truth is, you need to develop it. Life only becomes mundane when you lack self love and contentment. Nothing makes you happier like feeling fulfilled.  Fulfillment has nothing to do with acquiring the best things in the world, it has a whole lot to do with you.

It is difficult to avoid beating yourself up over someone you try to love, give your attention and share your life with when they don't feel the same way as you. Until the love you have for you is enough, you will continue to beg people to stay and love you. Until you see your worth, no one else can see it. Sometimes it feels like we are with the wrong people or falling for the wrong person, but sometimes it's just you making them feel less comfortable. Sometimes, you make them see the desperate you, someone who is needy and seek validation to be happy.

Nobody wants to be choked by someone because he/she feels you like them or into them.


A broken heart needs a lot of time to heal, being able to put your ex behind you sometimes does not validate a healed heart. Sometimes, the wound only heals from the outside, not inside. Emotionality is wild, it's strong enough to wreck you for the rest of your life. Accepting you are broken heals 80% of your heart. Never be ashamed of a broken heart, only those who have the ability to love and care get broken. I will never be ashamed of loving someone, but I will be ashamed of begging someone to love me. It isn't worth the effort and the afterward pain that comes with it.

Making sacrifices for some who don't love you, is like pouring a bucket of water inside a basket, at the end of the day there would be no evidence and your effort will only be seen by others paying attention. Self discipline is an underrated virtue. Sometimes you think you can't stop thinking about them, live without them. It is you limiting yourself to them.  Heal your heart. You know you are healed when you feel less broken, when people don't meet your expectations or reciprocate your feelings.  Never let anyone’s actions make you  stone cold. Keep your heart warm always, and understand, there are people seeking your love and attention but because you don't feel the same they don't bug you and cling themselves to you, it's called discipline. Learn it.


Remember someone who likes you or into you, will never lead you on to leave you in doubt, they will never give you a reason to prove your worth, neither will they make you seek attention or doubt the union. Sometimes this sounds like a fairy tale. The moment you have to fight too hard to show you care means they aren't worth it. It's overwhelming, the heart doesn't just beat for anyone, so I understand how it feels to finally find someone you fel is worthy and they don't see it. See it has a prep for the best of the best.

It's okay for the heart to ache, what is not okay is normalizing it. You deserve to be loved and appreciated. The intensity of your self love is what literally attracts the kind of love you deserve.
Written by: Moon Ruona Amreta
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Chuks Jude said…
I feel so calm and happy, sometimes is good to know the truth..
Nice article I love it!!!!
25 November 2023 at 12:28
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