My Lagos Nightlife Experience

This article is basically about my personal Lagos nightlife experience and observations. However, it includes societal misconduct, misconception and feminine values, as well as Masculinity pride and misconception about femininity.

All my life has been focused on intellectual accomplishments, basically by my dad. My dad is a Late Professor in psychology who has B.S.C in two different professions. Engineering and Public relations. He studied in the US MIIT to be precise. 

As a man with such intellectual value, I or anyone shouldn't expect anything less.

Growing up for me was more like belonging to a lion pride, you are not expected to mingle outside the pride. 

Have not really had a night life experience as an independent lady, and have been curious of what it actually looks like. However, my friend and I have been quite busy with some personal duties. We needed a break just to have fun and fly like a bird.

She suggested we club, without hesitation I jumped at the idea like a prisoner who has just gained freedom. The elation was special as I was super excited with high expectations on the outcome. 

We booked a hotel around Lekki phase 1 as our house is a few kilometers away from the preferred club. We lodge during the day chilling till the appropriate time. As a lady we are aware of the societal view about ladies that club or go out at night, we tried our best to look responsible enough. Looking sexy and decent at the same time. We were dazzling in expensive Cuban and steels. Looking like the big girls we truly are. ..Smiles.. We embarked on an adventure.

We drove down to VI, it was a Saturday actually but as you all know everyday is a party day in Lagos ( Nigeria ) most especially on the island. We eventually arrived at a club close to blowfish hotel. On getting to the entrance we were bounced. It was so embarrassing as we have never been bounced before. According to my friend, including myself. I was curious and angry at the same time as I was asking questions why we can't enter. We were made to understand we can't go in without a guy. We saw  other ladies standing outside waiting for guys to take them in. I found it very diminishing to stand so low just to enter a club when I am going  in to spend my own money. 

My friend already lost it as she felt so embarrassed and insulted. While thinking of the closest club around, one of  the security guys walked up to us, saying he Noticed we are new to the club. Explaining their rules and regulations politely, said if we still want to come in we have to pay a sum of 2k each. Of Cos we don't mind we just wanted  to have fun nothing more. We eventually paid our way in and we had fun and later noticed a few guys didn't even order anything, they just came to feed their eyes. We left to our hotel room at 4.amin the morning. At the club  gate a guy was held still because  he refuses to pay for his orders begging to give out his phone as ransom pending when he bring the money. How embarrassing. How can you go clubbing without having enough on you.

The next weekend we set out again, but this time, it  was a Friday but the target was BLVD along Admiralty way Lekki phase 1 but it wasn't open that Friday. We eventually visited other clubs. We experience similar treatment. We kept trying other clubs till we eventually decided to stay at home….   .... Laughs…. 

It is obvious women are not valued in our society, they are seen as an object most especially at night. Irrespective of your purpose, you are seen as a sex worker looking for a Cleint. This notion is wrong and absurd. Have once found myself in a situation where I was stuck in traffic till 11pm. I eventually stopped to order a cab as it was not wise to enter a commercial bus at night. While I was waiting for my ride a Benz literally parked pretending to be nice and eventually suggesting to pay me if I spend a night with him. I felt embarrassed because I wasn't in any way dressed in such a manner. It is societal belief and we need to work on our individual feminine assessment. Don't get me wrong, it is not gender based. Most men or young men who approach a lady, irrespective of his intention, first thing that comes to the consciousness of the lady is sexual gratification. It is becoming the norm of the mind of every gender.

This misconception of feminity is increasing by the day, love no longer matters in our minds irrespective of gender. A lot of things have changed. Individual value is at point zero, talk less of societal values. Masculinity has withdrawn, and this has to do with their ego and pride, I am not saying every man but  90%. I will keep emphasising on this because if nothing is done our next generation will pay for our actions.

Every lady shield has become feminism. They are blindly hiding under it without seeing the damage it is doing to them, while masculinity is riding on their ego blindly without seeing the danger they are setting for themselves.

A lot is happening and all that the religious fanatics can say is that the world is coming to an end. ….. Laugh…. 

There are high expectations on both genders. But zero values. Financial accomplishment has become the key to societal respect. I love it, however, consciously and unconsciously it's motivating both genders to focus more on financial accomplishment. Most especially femininity. It is more obvious that the only way you can be valued as a lady is becoming financially independent. Because masculinity is overwhelmed by their ego. And this is backfiring because no successful  lady wants to mingle or develop an entanglement with a man in the same class as her, not to mention lower. So the pressure on masculinity is even becoming more, because they have no choice but to put in more than usual effort in their daily struggle. 

The only thing every serious minded ambitious lady needs is a foundation, which is what every lady is struggling to attain. Once the foundation is solid the sky is only the beginning. So be wise before you treat any lady as sh*t.

The notion of broke guys and broke girls  is becoming rampant by the tick of the clock. If you ask me. A broke guy is different from a poor guy. Vice versa.

A broke guy putting effort on daily basis to becoming a better person is more promising to invest on, maybe not emotionally. Vice versa but the emotional aspect  can work for a guy because a lady's  love develops more when a man is supportive financially and career wise. 

If you're financially struggling, crawling as a man, it is only wise to have a fling if you value your mental health, because no woman can be faithful to a guy who can't be there for her. The only time money no longer matters in life is when there is enough, trust me. That when love, time and attention matters.

Am a feminist and a proud one. I believe in financial independence for every lady. I believe in femininity value irrespective of her financial or intellectual status. I believe in masculinity value irrespective of their financial and intellectual accomplishment. Tomorrow is a mystery we all wish to know about. 

Masculinity is king and head of all but his subjects should be treated with value and respect if he wants it to be reciprocated. That is how God wanted it. I believe in equality between genders, zero discrimination. Respect is reciprocal and disrespect is reciprocal. Don't make a lady feel worthless and expect the opposite. That's what feminism is about, the confidence to be you and bold enough to set boundaries.

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