moonruona’s blog

  The confusion that comes with uncertainty is beyond comprehension. Think back for a moment how different would your life have been if you had simply accepted the fate before you? Maybe in your job, your relationships, your career choices, or even your marriage. Breaking free from a cycle you don’t even remember entering is one of the hardest puzzles to solve. You just want to get it right for once. I’ve read many books, and one of my favorites is  Attitude Is Everything  by Keith Harrell. It made me question whether my attitude was one of the forces holding me back. I however convinced myself it was and started working on how I approach and speak to people, which honestly helped in certain areas of my life. But let’s be honest I wanted more. I wanted to break free from financial and emotional struggles. And from what I’ve learned about people of wealth and influence, many of them appear saucy, arrogant, or even mean at least from my sentimental point of view. Questionin...

The greatest moment in life is not when we’re winning, it's those moments when we strive to achieve our goals. Hey is why The days we struggle to achieve are often the most underrated chapters of our lives, yet they deserve the highest appreciation. These moments don’t just change our circumstances they shift our mindset, refine our perspective, and shape the way we approach life. They are the quiet seasons that condition us to discover who we truly are. Because if you don’t know and understand yourself, you’ll keep running in circles, never arriving at a meaningful destination. Behind every milestone we reach lies a refinement process often called the waiting season. This period tests patience, molds character, and uncovers layers of our identity. However, how long that season lasts often depends on how deeply you are willing to understand yourself within it. Some people arrive at that self-discovery quickly, while others must walk through challenges, endure pain, and sometimes su...

  Emotions are the most difficult part of self-expression. You are often caught in between, wondering whether you are overreacting, being entitled, demanding, selfish, or even foolish. In my opinion, maturity is the ability to process our actions and decisions before we make them. Whether they might negatively affect someone or not, as long as they bring balance, that should be all that matters. As we grow older, managing our emotions without being overwhelmed becomes easier. It’s fascinating to realize that emotional intelligence is the most crucial part of life, as it guarantees your ability to succeed. Understanding when to be expressive and when to hold back should be seen as a great skill, because it takes self-discipline to achieve. Unfortunately, society often recognizes only material accomplishments. However, I believe the greatest achievements are the battles we fight within ourselves and win—the bad habits we struggle to overcome, the inner demons we work to tame, self-ca...

  Understanding can sometimes be demanding, both emotionally and mentally. Expecting to be understood is one of the most unrealistic demands you can place on someone. In fact, we often struggle to understand ourselves, let alone someone whose personality and life perspective are completely different from our own. You don’t need to fully understand someone to coexist or relate with them. The most important aspect of friendship—or any relationship—is connection: finding value in their presence and personality. Going through life can be draining, and doing it alone is exhausting. However, the universe never ceases to bring certain types of people into our lives, both good and bad. Sometimes, you meet people with genuine intentions, yet you find yourself filled with doubt, hoping to understand them and vice versa. Life has a way of gifting—or perhaps rewarding—you with imperfections. How do you explain praying for light, only to find that, when it’s time to sleep, you can’t turn it o...

  Nothing hits you as hard as finding yourself in a desperate situation with insufficient funds to solve it. It's incredibly sad to have the immediate solution to your confusion within grasp, yet it feels impossible to reach. I find life fascinating and complex to write about. It can be as challenging as walking on broken glass in one moment and as easy as threading a needle in the next. While it may seem comforting to believe that the difficult learning process is necessary for growth, have you ever considered that life could be made a little easier? If you ask me how, I honestly don't know because I'm still figuring it out. Sounds exhausting? Yes, it certainly is.  Elders often give advice about putting in effort and being consistent, even saying that material things don't matter in the end. But how can material things not matter? It's the 20th century, of course they matter. Pursuing material things is natural, but making them your top life priority becomes unhea...

Wedding parties can be overwhelming for brides and grooms, no matter how simple or elaborate. It's a significant day that validates a union's commitment and willingness to unify their differences. Marriage takes you deeper into adulthood, as it is more demanding and exhausting than one is used to. However, the contentment of having someone you are entitled to is satisfying. The initial 1 to 2 years of marriage are often the most beautiful moments, as it is easy to forgive and forget, easy to adjust and compromise, and easy to deal with your spouse's differences without feeling labeled as being tolerant. No matter how many years you spend courting, marriage is incomparable as you have no reason to hide yourself.  It's important to understand that there is no default to a successful marriage; you must figure yourself out. Societal standards of marriage are often unrealistic. Managing your home has to come with setting boundaries, emotionally and mentally. No one can under...

  To ever think I was once in love with someone I thought I could bring love and happiness to at the expense of mine got me questioning how less I once loved my beautiful self. Sometimes you just fall in love with the wrong person because you don't value yourself, seeking validation from others. Stepping away from this mindset has allowed me to put myself out there casually and nonchalantly. You know, just have fun and step out of your comfort zone, normalising rebellious attitudes.  I felt so confined as a child that I just wanted to exercise my freedom. I often worry about what others think of me, and unconsciously judge myself, but then why should I? No one truly understands my horror nor do they have the slightest idea how bumpy my path has been. People only understand what they choose to understand, why care so much? breaking free from negative circles should take precedence over meeting societal expectations.   The experiences I have had so far have had a positive i...

It’s one thing to get motivated, it's another to remain motivated. Some mornings are just different, you just don't have the emotional strength to get out of bed. Society sometimes is the best source of strength and most times, they are the virus you want to run miles away from. Sometimes my room can be a total wreck, disorganised and revolting, and I will find myself sitting like the queen of the coast, with less concern. After my daily activities, I literally jump on my bed and sleep like a baby. On rare occasions this can last a maximum of 3 days. From my hygiene routine I want to believe it is safe to conclude that the state of your personal space gives a hint on your ongoing mental and emotional situation.( Lol) but when you have people doing that for you, it becomes easy to conceal. . Some days just often decide to go south, leaving you wondering where you went wrong. Ever feel overwhelmed about everything, it just feels like you can't. You literally feel less motivat...

Writing from the African and Nigerian recent society perspective, Feminism is nothing but a bais form of concealing ladies impropriety. It is disturbing to still have such a mindset about feminism, despite the rapid advancement in the societal school of thought. The interesting part of all this is, it has been women against women.  Over the years, it has always been men advocating against the movement, which I believe, have been a lack of knowledge on why feminism was established in the first place. From a recent statistic, most men have begun to understand and support the movement. Hallelujah!!! It sounds hilarious when I overhear people say feminist are bitter unmarried women who have no hopes of finding a man. First and foremost feminism has nothing to do with marital status. It has nothing to do with your relationship status either. Feminism is the same thing as Activism. It is a race for peace and harmony. Picture this, when a man and a woman understands and respects each othe...

It hurts, and the pain that comes with it is incomparable. Seeking validation might seem unhealthy, but there is absolutely nothing  wrong with it. It is hard to deal with emotions you thought you have control over. It is always difficult fathoming how you keep attracting the wrong people in your life or should i say you keep falling for the wrong people, because from a critical perspective they made it clear they are not into you, but choose to stay and see what happens. You choose to put yourself through emotional pain hoping they see your effort and probably change. Nothing is more mentally exhausting like trying to help people see your worth, it is like giving money to an ape, no matter how much it is, it will never see the value or need to have it, and if you insist it will trample upon it carelessly and eventually destroy it. Sometimes you think it is love, it's never love when it aches your heart, it's never love when it's not being reciprocated. Sometimes you think ...