My Marriage


Wedding parties can be overwhelming for brides and grooms, no matter how simple or elaborate. It's a significant day that validates a union's commitment and willingness to unify their differences. Marriage takes you deeper into adulthood, as it is more demanding and exhausting than one is used to. However, the contentment of having someone you are entitled to is satisfying.
The initial 1 to 2 years of marriage are often the most beautiful moments, as it is easy to forgive and forget, easy to adjust and compromise, and easy to deal with your spouse's differences without feeling labeled as being tolerant. No matter how many years you spend courting, marriage is incomparable as you have no reason to hide yourself. 
It's important to understand that there is no default to a successful marriage; you must figure yourself out. Societal standards of marriage are often unrealistic. Managing your home has to come with setting boundaries, emotionally and mentally. No one can understand your spouse as you can, so any opinion others have about them has to be carefully checked and filtered. Marriage is like a field with traps and bumps; it's inevitable.

Everyone wants a perfect marriage, but your unrealistic definition of perfection is your only limitation. There is nothing wrong in seeking guidance in relating to and understanding your spouse, especially when you've already exhausted all your communication skills. Finding balance in a marriage is like sitting on a seesaw; it takes unity, equal effort, and support.

Infidelity and finances are known to be major causes of dysfunctional marriages. Struggling financially, especially when kids are involved, can be tormenting. The bitter truth is that infidelity and financial struggle are caused by a lack of harmony between couples. With harmony, nothing is impossible. There is nothing two people in unity cannot achieve; you need to work together. A cheating spouse is heart-wrenching to deal with, but is it enough to give up your union? Betrayal strikes at the heart of our deepest connections, shattering trust and leaving us in a whirlwind of pain and confusion. Some things are not worth destroying, no matter how broken we feel about it. The most important question at this time is, how did it happen? It might seem irrelevant, but considering how, why, and for how long can be crucial.

How apologetic is the cheating spouse? Is your union worth your forgiveness? Disloyalty from someone you held dear feels like an earthquake shaking the very foundation of your life. The betrayal of loyalty cuts deep, leaving scars that may never fully heal.  Learning to find balance shouldn't be seen as rocket science; all it takes is being intentional about everything. Forgiveness in marriage is the cornerstone of lasting love. It’s the courageous act of letting go, the balm that heals wounds, and the bridge that brings hearts closer together. When we forgive, we honor our commitment, embrace our shared humanity, and strengthen the bond that unites us. Let forgiveness be the light that guides your marriage through every storm and into a future filled with love and understanding.

Your marriage can be as you dream if you are willing to find balance, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically.


Written by Moonlight Ruona Amreta

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