Undeniable Mistakes Ladies Make

So many mistakes ladies make today are caused by their inordinate desire and some confused women indoctrinating the society from their shallow and selfish perspective of life. I'm a lady and as a matter of fact, I'm a feminist. As at the time of this article I am not married.

I was involved in a conversation that involves a particular lady that is yet to be married and is in her 50s. The man I got into this chat with was a secret admirer of the said lady, who eventually made his affection known to her. According to him, they were colleagues working in the same company, she was a receptionist as at that time, he was of age and ready to settle for marriage, which he founds her  suitable for a wife material. After so many days of chasing and persistency, unfortunately she turned him down with an excuse that she can't date a man in her working environment. According to him, when a man sees a woman he likes No is always not an answer, so he kept showering her with tons of gifts and romantic cards, including going on a dinner night and romantic dates. As at then, in the 90s that was the only possible way to show your affection to a woman you truly love. As time pass by he begins to realize she had an eye on someone else which to a shock the person was also a colleague. 

The man she admires and can't wait to say a yes to, doesn't even notice her existence, maybe she is not his spec. She did everything to get his attention but to no avail, while this man who admires her,is doing everything to get her attention and to eventually win her over. Finally she started paying attention and was ready to give it a try. Later she started showing attitude and told him frankly that she cannot marry a man who doesn't have a car, live in a big apartment and so on. Eventually they parted. According to him he could afford meet up with all her requirements, but  doesn't see any reason why he should lavish on a bigger apartment when he lives alone then.

My point is, it is very important for a man to be financially stable before settling down for marriage. It is very important for a man to have at least basic needs for the comfort of his family. If  you ask me marrying a man who can barely stand on his feet is torture to the unborn and the family as a whole. I call it boundage because every single income that should be used on personal growth will be diverted for the family upkeep and at the end of the day, Success becomes unreachable. Sometimes it is not about finding a man that has it all, it is about finding a man that wants it all. If he is not financially stable, what happens to working together? If he doesn't have all the needs to give a family comfort, what happens to getting them together ? Marriage is not about being Materialistic ready. There is more to it than that. A man who loves you, is better than a man you love but doesn't reciprocate. A man who loves you will do everything and anything to make you happy, give you comfort and joy all your life. A man you love will never know your value as a lady, your happiness can never be his priority, not  even after becoming the mother of his children, it will not change anything. You will only live to regret all your life. Choose wisely my dear, love fades when it is not being reciprocated. The way men love is different from a lady, a man that brings joy into your life will one day become the love of your life.

And let's not forget, it is not about how handsome, caring and loving a man is,spiritual compatibility is the foundation of every successful marriage. If you cannot connect with a man on a whole different level then maybe he is not yours. It is very important to be compatible with someone, it makes understanding easy. The ability to be able to work as one in a relationship is priceless and I feel we should always look for that trait in a potential partner because working in unity speeds the journey of great accomplishment. The enforcement and so on always hit differently , not to mention meeting someone with similar goals I call that the power  couple...smile.. because the sky will only be the beginning. Vice versa 

As a lady it is very important to be financially independent, but the time frame of  becoming independent varies from every lady. However it is very important to be dynamic in life, and not be too focused on one aspect of life. Society pressure on ladies is becoming out of range most especially in terms of financial accomplishment. Women are being tagged broke for setting certain Criteria for themselves, therefore to become accomplished in the society as overshadowed every other necessities of life as a woman. Feminism to me is independency in every aspect possible. Despite that, we need to put our life needs into consideration.The fact that a man is a king and as the authority over the kingdom doesn't make the queen a slave, knowing your place as a woman is very important, and knowing your worth as a queen is what feminism is about. Lot of women today have rendered themselves useless to themselves because of the misconceptions they carry about. No doubt you have been through the worst possible, and women have been denied the best in almost every way possible, but never let that define who you are. 

If you don't meet the wrong person how will you recognize the right person? All men are never the same, you just have to approach them differently. Finding the perfect someone,it is not about finding perfection, it is about finding the connection. The ability to be able to be at peace with someone is more important than the perfection we seek. Materialistic needs are important, don't get me wrong, life is not real, it is an illusion, therefore you have to flow with it. But whatever the heart desires, the heart might not find, but whatever the hand mold the eyes will surely see and eventually the heart will rejoice. There is what we call  the power of a woman which most women think can only be used negatively. There is magic in your hands. Use it wisely. If you have a man that truly loves, it is over, that Is the only perfection you should seek. Every other thing can always fall in place. Love brings unity and unity is power, power to conquer the world and break through every baricage in life. The ability to know how to use it also matters.

Don't waste your time searching for that which is not missing, because I have learnt that every emotional and mental strength we need to become who we want and own what we want is within, we just need to figure it out. And don't forget Divine timing is the slowest and the best.

Thanks for reading 

Moon Ruona Amreta